As Realtors and businesspeople, we should never be victims. That word should not exist anywhere in our vocabulary or spellchecker. It is not to be used - by us. We may hear customers and other use it, but we should not.
Does that mean that we never have events happen to us that we feel we had no part in or that we can't really attribute a specific cause or action to its happening? Of course not. Stuff happens. Life happens.
How we deal with what life brings our way is a choice. If we always look to assign blame or consider that we were unjustly on the receiving end of something that happened - without any plans to pick ourselves up and move on - we only increase the impact of such an event on our lives.
Being a victim - that is feeling like one or consciously expressing this - is not positive. It does not help us grow and learn from the experience.
Things happen, and we have a choice as to how we are going to let them affect and impact us. We always have a choice. We can move on or remain in that moment. Dwelling on them makes us captive to them.
I recommend that we choose to remain positive and move on as soon as possible.
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Dwelling on them makes us captive to them.
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So True!! ....great words Steve thanks for sharing!!
Steppin' Up & Forward,
Bob
Bob,
Thanks for the agreement. Good to hear from you. :)
Steve
Wise advice! The only thing we are really in control of is our reaction/response to events.
Li,
Thank you. We control our thoughts and we get to choose how we are going to respond. Quite right. :)
Steve
Steve.. Great blog. My new years resolution was to be positive and always have a PMA (positive mental attitude).. I might have faultered now and then... but I do believe for the most part I've been holding true to this resolution.
Valerie,
Great 2009 resolution (for all of us), and congratulations on staying true to it. :)
Steve
Steve, I admit that I do dwell for a day or two and believe in working things out through communication. If that doesn't work, I do move on. Why waste my energy?
Linda,
We need closure - if only because we released it and moved on. :)
Steve
Great insight. I've met people that I call "versatile victims" they can figure out how to be the victim in almost any given situation. and then the opposite, like Victor Frankl. He's my hero when it comes to strength in adversity. (AKA not being a victim)
Steve - I don't subscribe to the victim mentality. I change what I can change and I accept what I can't change. Everyone has gone through the trials and tribulations of life. When I am wallowing in self-pity, I look at others and think "hey, I got it easy compared to x".
Kathleen,
Well said. Thanks for adding your great comments to the discussion. :)
Steve
Ryan,
That is a great attitude. Thanks for sharing that with the forum. :)
Steve
Great post! Thanks for sharing.
Renee,
Thanks for dropping by and for your agreement and comments. :)
Steve
Absolutely true, Steve. We can't always control what happens to us but we can always control our reaction to it. It's funny I came across this post of yorus today because I just watched this great little video this morning that was right on with what you are saying:
"Finish Strong" From Mac Anderson, Simple Truths:
Just click here to watch
Debra,
Thanks for your comments and for sharing the video link - very inspirational. :)
Steve
Well said Steve. This is so true! It's NOT what happens to us, but HOW we deal with it!
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Mirela,
We always have a choice on how we will let what happens to or around us affect us. :)
Steve
Mirela,
Thanks for the feature. I am honored by your choice. :)
Steve
I agree we need to stay positive no matter what. If we think about being the victim before we know it we are.
Elizabeth,
That is a great way to look at it. Thanks for the comments. :)
Steve